How Gender Conditioning Limits Our Personal Impact
Last week I was working with a group of younger female acting students.
“Try dropping the need to be feminine” I suggested, grappling around for something to help them get into the grit of their work.
Why would I suggest such a thing you might ask. Well, here’s what I see in my work every single day with performers, business people and entrepreneurs alike:
So many women smile and make themselves demure so that they don’t ‘threaten’ or appear unattractive. So many women don’t use the impact of their full voice because they don’t want to be seen as bossy, loud or aggressive. So many women don’t speak up first at a meeting or do allow themselves be spoken over because they think that the men in the room are more knowledgeable or have more ‘strength’. All of these traits are conditioned ‘femininity’. This is not to be confused with being female.
But it isn’t just the women who suffer.